Father Vs Mother

Like what was happening last year just before Bihar elections when there was this unfortunate windfall of kidnappings in Bihar, outrageous crimes against woman is the shocking flavour of this summer. While the debates about the dress sense, or about death sentence to the rapists continue, still, every instance of any new such incident seems more ghastly than the previous one.

In the thick of such things, the Star News is showing a news story, which is now fast taking the shape of a soap opera. This about the famed Nandi case of Lucknow, where the husband had put a writ application to stop her wife from aborting her child. Some people like Amit Varma are disgusted at the argument of the husband, while I am pained at his situation.

This person is in such a an unfortunate situation, that there is no justice for him. Court was kind of enough to entertain the appeal and even forwarded it to legislation to amend the laws about it. This is a fit case of role reversal. Like there are thousands of cases of men harassing women, here we have this man harassed by his better half.

Imagine a man gets married after months of courtship where his fiancee calls him almost daily. Then together they have a lovely honeymoon, where they decide to plan a baby. Meanwhile wife goes back to her home town to attend a cousin's marriage. When she returns she decides that she no longer can live so far from her parents.There is also an ashram over there where she regularly visits.

She decides to head back to her parent's house. Then arbitrarily she decides to abort the baby. Then she decides ....but hello? Will all the decisions be taken by the lady only? Isn't there a person who has married her only last November; who loves her; who had dreamt of a happy life; with a woman who was perfectly happy with her marriage, with her pregnancy just weeks ago.

So what does the husband do? Please remember he would have done the following. On her first homesick bout, he would have smiled knowingly. Well, who isn't. It will get over. Then she would have raised her pitch about the homesickness. He would have sympathized. Mind you she would be calling her parents daily and vice-versa.

Then she would explode the bomb to the shock of this guy that she can't live without her parents, so far from her city. She is hell bent on that. He is pleading with her. He now gets frustrated at the sight of no relenting. She is stubborn. Come what may, she will go. Fights start, and her parents are summoned. Situation get worsened. And now she decides to abort her child.

Imagine the plight of this guy. Until a few months ago, he had a loving wife, he was expecting a baby. The bliss was doubled, the planning for future had started. And now he has nothing just because the woman was homesick. This man has lost wife, child, peace of mind, and money.

I think this woman is disgusting. Just because the womb is hers, she doesn't get the right to kill that fetus. The right has to be earned. This is not a rape. Nor there is any medical complication. This is for sheer selfishness. This can't be allowed. If there is no such law, then it should be made. The man should also have a say and the court should decide subjectively.

But this poor guy would have nothing. No wife, no child. He is in further trouble. This lady now wants to take the police action on him for - hold your breath - killing her child by kicking her stomach. Not only that. She also wants to slap a dowry case, harassment case, abuse and what not!

This man is finished, in little less than seven months.